How to Rest This Summer (Even if You’re an Overachiever) Without Feeling Like You’re Falling Behind

Slowing down doesn't mean you're falling behind. Burnout recovery starts with intentional rest. Learn how to truly recharge in the latest blog—How to Rest This Summer (Even if You’re an Overachiever)—plus how burnout therapy virtually in Texas can support your healing.

Let’s be honest: you need a break. Like, desperately. Your nervous system has been running on caffeine, calendar reminders, and the sheer pressure of keeping everything from falling apart. Summer rolls around, and part of you wants to collapse into a hammock with a book and an iced drink. But the other part? The part calling the shots? It says:

“You’ll lose momentum.”

“You’ll fall behind.”

“There’s too much to do.”

Sound familiar?

If you are the kind of person who thrives on checklists, overbooks yourself into oblivion, and panics when your calendar has white space, then you already know rest does not come easily. Especially when your identity has been built around always being productive, available, and fine.

Let’s talk about what it means to rest this summer, without spiraling into guilt, shame, or financial panic. And yes, we’re going to get real about why rest feels unsafe, even when you’re running on fumes.

The Desperate Need for Rest (and the Deep Panic It Brings)

You are not being dramatic. Your body is exhausted. Your brain is foggy. You are fantasizing about quitting your job or disappearing for a weekend without telling anyone where you’re going.

You’re tired of being the glue that holds everything together. You’re tired of keeping your cool while everyone else falls apart. And secretly being jealous that other people have the luxury of falling apart. You know you need a break. You dream of beaches and books and 72 hours of silence. But something inside you screams, “If I stop now, I will lose everything.”

That’s not laziness or lack of discipline. That is what happens when your nervous system has been trained to associate rest with danger. When slowing down feels like letting go of control. When you have built your sense of worth around being the one who always shows up, always performs, and always powers through.

Rest feels terrifying because you were never taught that rest was safe. Or allowed. Or deserved.

You may have been conditioned to always look productive to prepare for when your parent came home, yelling at you if you looked too comfortable or bored. Or, you learned to stay busy and focused on other things to help you cope with the chaos of your inner world. Busy-ness feels normal when you are the one everyone relies on.

Scarcity Mindset: “I Need a Vacation, But I Can’t Afford One”

You see the ads for summer getaways. The emails about resort deals. You may even bookmark a few or add another open tab to your browser. But deep down, you are spiraling about money and time away from work, quietly.

You are not going to say it out loud. You would never admit to anyone that you are worried about finances. You have a professional life. A career. A reputation. Saying, “I am scared to spend money on myself,” feels exposing in a way that makes your skin crawl. Thinking, “Once I get five more clients, I will feel more secure to take that vacation”.

So, you tell yourself it’s not worth it. That rest can wait. Maybe next year things will be different.

But let’s be honest. You are not splurging on a private island. You are just trying to go somewhere that will let you breathe without ten people needing something from you. You are burnt out. You are running on empty. And even though the scarcity mindset is loud, the truth is this: you cannot afford to not rest.

When you keep putting off recovery, the cost only increases. It shows up in your grumpy mood, your fuzzy memory, and your migraines. It seeps into your relationships and steals your joy, leaving only resentment and annoyance. Burnout will collect a debt no matter what. The only question is whether you pay with money or with your health.

Your Jam-Packed Schedule Is Not Helping

You are running from one thing to the next all day, every day. A baby shower at 10. A networking event at 12. A birthday dinner at 4. A volunteer meeting at 7. And somehow, you are still checking work emails between sips of sparkling water. Because you are also staying hydrated on top of everything else.

People think you are a master of time management. What they don’t see is how anxious you feel when you have nothing planned. They don’t know that an empty calendar makes you feel irrelevant. Unanchored. Useless.

You are not alone in this. So many of my clients live by the same unspoken rule: if I am not constantly doing something, I am failing.

But here’s the thing: if your schedule is full and your soul is empty, you are not actually thriving. You are performing.

So, How Do You Actually Rest?

Let’s get practical. Rest does not have to mean a $5,000 wellness retreat or quitting your job. It means making intentional space for recovery now, while you still can choose it.

Here are a few places to start:

1. Reframe Rest as Productive

Your brain has been wired to associate productivity with value. So start by redefining rest as something that serves your long-term goals. Rest is what allows you to keep going. It’s not indulgence. It’s maintenance. Instead of asking, “Have I worked hard enough to rest?” Reframe the question to “Have I rested well enough to be working this hard?”

2. Start With Micro-Rest

If the thought of taking a whole weekend off makes you sweat, start smaller. Ten minutes of silence in the car before you go inside. An hour without your phone. Saying no to just one invitation. Mono-task your to-do list with two-minute breaks between each item.

Micro-rest builds tolerance for stillness. It reminds your body that the world won’t collapse if you are not in charge for five minutes. You can practice retraining your nervous system to recognize rest as safe.

3. Budget for Restoration, Not Just Emergencies

You probably have a plan for car repairs or vet bills. But what about your emotional maintenance? If you are waiting to spend money until you are emotionally and spiritually broken, you are already too late. Schedule the massage. Book the weekend away. You’re not reckless, you’re recovering.

4. Make Room for Nothing (and Let It Be Enough)

Pick one day this summer when your calendar is intentionally blank. No catch-up tasks. No errands. No “just one more” obligations. Let it feel awkward. Let it feel luxurious. Let it change your life.

Already know you will accept an invitation at the same time? Create a time block on your calendar that says one of the following:

• You are your own family. Take care of yourself.

• Chill Evening

• DO NOT SCHEDULE ANYTHING

• Be a Couch Potato

You’re Not Lazy. You’re Fried.

Let’s be very clear, burnout is not about weakness. It is what happens when capable, competent people are asked to carry too much for too long with too little support.

You are not broken. You are depleted. And you deserve recovery that meets you where you are.

That’s why I offer burnout therapy virtually in Texas. You don’t need one more thing on your calendar that requires an hour commute and a brave face. You need space to unravel and rebuild in a way that feels safe.

If you are tired of spinning your wheels, saying yes when you mean no, and quietly panicking about everything you cannot afford to admit, I see you. I have been you.

You do not have to keep earning your rest.

Let this summer be the season you finally stop pretending you’re fine.
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